Why do we find it difficult to manage uncertainty?

Why do we find it difficult to manage uncertainty?

Uncertainty is a natural part of life but for many, it is also one of the most uncomfortable experiences. From waiting for exam /medical results, to job instability, the uncertainty and unpredictability of relationships. This uncertainty taps into our deepest fears and vulnerabilities.

We can find this difficult because at our core we are wired for survival. Our brains are constantly scanning our environment for perceived threats and uncertainty is perceived as a potential threat. When outcomes are unknown, we lose our sense of control, a key ingredient to feeling safe and secure. Feeling unsafe and not secure can trigger stress responses, including anxiety and overthinking, as our minds attempt to prepare for every possible outcome and situation, even the worst case scenario.

Psychologically, we prefer predictability and certainty. This allows us to plan, set expectations and make decisions with confidence. When the predictability and certainty is removed, it can create a gap, one that many people fill with assumptions, catastrophising and a lot of overthinking. This mental effort often worsens the stress rather than soothing it.

Uncertainty challenges our identity and goals. If we don't what’s next, how can we move forward or define success? The can lead to paralysis or impulsive decisions made out of fear rather than intention. This discomfort of uncertainty is universal but it is not insurmountable. Learning to tolerate the uncertainty or not knowing, through mindfulness, reframing, and making small changes can transform it from a source of fear into an opportunity for growth.

After all, while uncertainty brings risk, it also brings such possibilities.

Our Counsellor, Bronwen, works with us, bringing families into a safe space.