Bereavement is one of the most significant and stressful events in ones life. How we cope with bereavement is unique to each individual.
For brief explanations of bereavement and to gain an understanding of whether it would be helpful to talk to one of our counsellors we will break it into two parts. Firstly there is the bereavement stage and then the grieving process follows this. The progression from bereavement and grieving will be very different and varied depending on the individual and the circumstances around the loss. Both stages are a natural response to loss and – although very painful and sad – is something that we all have to go through. Bereavement counselling can help address this stages of grief.
Of course, loss can be uniquely personal to the individual. Listed below are some circumstances that are extremely complicated and without wanting to diminish one loss over another there are some bereavements by nature that are very painful and hard to make sense of and this is complex grief
Traumatic Loss- When we lose someone in traumatic circumstances such a car crash, an accident or violence leaves the bereaved with many different emotions. The events around the death are often unclear and quite random, leaving the victims a sense of powerlessness.
Suicide- This can bring up many un-answered questions for the bereaved and has a huge impact on the family and others who are left behind to mourn.
Losing a child -It goes against our beliefs that as parents we are not supposed to out-live our children and the sense of guilt can be overwhelming.
At Hertford Counselling Service we work with individuals who for one reason or another have become stuck within the bereavement of their loss. We would recommend talking therapy with one of our trained bereavement counsellors if you are struggling to cope with the loss of a loved one.